Suicide Bereavement

Grief is a normal response to losing those who are important to us. But when someone dies by suicide, those bereaved often experience a complicated form of grief caused by a combination of sudden shock, unanswered questions of ‘Why?’, and feelings of ‘What could I have done?’.

Unfortunately, suicide can have a dramatic personal effect on those close to the deceased. In dealing with the suicide of someone you know, it’s in your best interest to talk about your reactions openly and honestly, to find support to make sense of what has happened, and to learn how to live with your loss.

Suicide loss can have a profound impact on physical and mental health. It’s important people bereaved by suicide are treated with compassion and support. They may be experiencing:

  • Shock, numbness, denial
  • Searching for reasons ‘why?’
  • Guilt
  • Anger/blame
  • Despair
  • Listlessness
  • Stigma and shame
  • Loneliness/disconnection
  • Depression
  • Thoughts of suicide themselves

The pain of suicide loss can’t be eased quickly, but there are things you can do to help:

  • Take time out. It’s OK to give yourself time from the pain you are experiencing by doing something you enjoy.
  • Stay connected and accept support from friends, family, and support networks. This will reduce your sense of isolation and feelings of loneliness associated with grief.
  • Honour the deceased person. Talk about them, keep a journal, and share memories and photos.
  • Stay healthy by eating well, exercising, sleeping regularly, and avoiding drugs and alcohol.
  • Prioritize daily tasks: only do what is essential and avoid making major decisions until you can think more clearly.
  • Ask for help if you need it. Talk to a counsellor/psychologist, a helpline, and friends and family to find comfort, support, and ways to cope.
  • Join a suicide bereavement support group. Sharing your experience with others who have been through similar experiences will help you realize you are not alone.

If you are thinking about suicide get help immediately. Call 1-800-273-8255.

Support Group

Please join co-facilitators Alison and Diane Louise for a free adult support group the second Monday of each month from 7pm to 8:30pm. This group is ongoing and available to anyone over the age of 18 who is interested in group support for suicide bereavement. It is held at Partners In Care at 2075 NE Wyatt Ct., Bend, OR 97701.

A Spanish interpreter is available for free to anyone in attendance. Please contact Alison to arrange for the interpreter to be at the group

Un intérprete de español se encuentra disponible de forma gratuita a cualquier persona en la asistencia. Por favor, póngase en contacto con Alison para organizar el intérprete de estar en el grupo .

An RSVP is appreciated: Please call or email Alison. Visit our Events page for specific dates.

Visit our page of resources for suicide prevention, bereavement, and grief.

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